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Becky Brenton's avatar

I totally get what you’re experiencing, especially about your parents.

It started for me when my aunts & uncles began to pass. They were all older than my mom. I was close to my aunts & uncles & spent time with them throughout my life on various adventures.

Once they were gone, my mother had no more siblings and no more fun times with them. One good thing is we were close to many of the cousins, her nieces & nephews & even grand nieces & nephews.

Mom passed in 2023, and that was the end of the previous generation that I had such close ties with.

There's so much I miss, but especially my mother. And I think about her often. The questions that constantly come up that I want to ask her & the discussions I want to have - well, they’re unanswered. It leaves a hole.

I had no idea I would feel this depth of loss for her. I am happy to say I have a few cousins still on this earth that I connect with & we have that shared history.

Bar Scott's avatar

Thanks for sharing this, Becky. Our family's a little different in the sense that my father was the oldest of five and didn't appear to be going anywhere. His siblings are all still alive, as are their spouses except for one. I'm grateful for that. We're all close too. Cousins and nieces and nephews, across generations. I especially appreciate the idea that questions come up that will remain unanswered. It's that final inability to find out something of interest. I'm sad for us both. Take good care of yourself. Love, Bar

Cackie Scott's avatar

ME, too! I was grieving as they began to fail and I am still grieving. Not much we can do except carry on.

PS: Vice is evil and a vise is a holding device often mounted to a workbench

Bar Scott's avatar

EEks. I'll fix that now! Thank you! Sorry you're hurting, Cack. I love you.

Bar Scott's avatar

Fixed! Thanks for noticing that.

Sandra Dalton's avatar

I would love to see the photos of 408, and totally understand if that feels too personal.

Bar Scott's avatar

Thank you for asking, Sandra. If I were the only child I wouldn't feel so protective, but because there are six of us, I decided not to share them.

Sandra Dalton's avatar

I understand!

Bar Scott's avatar

I PMd you on FB…

Rebecca Crowder's avatar

Wow, those are absolutely gorgeous photos! Thank you for sharing them. 😀

Bar Scott's avatar

Thank you. They each lifted my spirits as life in nature always does…I’m glad they lifted yours.

Robby Berman's avatar

Those pictures are beautiful, and those first two paragraphs, especially, are, too!

Bar Scott's avatar

Thank you, Robby. Those were nice 408 details to remember. Glad you liked the pics too. I’m relieved to see flowers again. The first pic is our Christmas cactus. She’s obviously discombobulated too.

Kirsti Gholson's avatar

Beautiful. Beautiful. All my love you.

Bar Scott's avatar

Thank you, Kirsti. So much love.

Nicole Parsons's avatar

It’s so hard to take in just how much death and life are around us, all at the same time ~

Bar Scott's avatar

all around us, all the time. It's mysterious, wonderful, powerful, hard as can be, and just the way it is, right? What choice do we have but to navigate it, whatever that looks like.

Beth Abrams's avatar

Thinking of you. Thank you for the beauty you share here (and always) in so many ways. Hugs and gratitude.for you.

Bar Scott's avatar

Dear Beth, Thank you for reading, completing the circle as it were. It's much appreciated as you know.